If Your Initiation Type is Dominant in: Seductive-Exotic (Sexotic)
(* While each person has a complex mix of all arousal types, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.)
A Behaviorist knows exactly what they like and have a unique erotic map that centers around visualizing and experimenting with those acts (roles). They are aroused by thinking about, talking about or watching — enjoying looking at sexy images or talking dirty to explore that particular act. Imaginative, impatient and spontaneous, the Sexotic seeks something specific.
Sexual style: Sexotics can be quite focused on a specific act or turn-on and get a tremendous sexual energy from thinking about and doing that particular act.
Starters: They will love to watch, plan for or talk about their specific act or role. Seduction (the game of desire) was found to be particularly exciting part of sex for this group.
Tools: Sex toys and porn are popular items for this type.
Partner: A fellow sexual adventurer, or someone who gets excited, shares or at very least is non-judgemental about what act (or role) turns them on.
Turn-offs: The biggest way to turn off someone who is dominant in Sexotic is to not like (or judge) their particular sexy imagining.
Different for Men and Women
Because this erotic style is routed in the cultural script, we found it was expressed quite differently for heterosexual men and women (not so different in queer people). The points above were found to be similar for men and women, but the following were trends that were quite different for men and women.
Women Sexotics: Attractors
There may be no bigger aphrodisiac than playing the game of desire. One way to do that is to be the “object of desire.” Being seen as sexy allows this type to feel powerful and erotic. Dressing up can be an arousing activity with a common fantasy that your partner is seeing your sexiness and is responding to it. The Seductive-Exotic type looks for those lovers who will appreciate their appeal. A big turn-off for the Seductive-Exotic Initiation type is being ignored or having their sexual advanced rebuffed. The Seductive-Exotic type loves to feel sexy!
Are you or your partner the Seductive-Exotic Initiation Type? Find out with the QTIP quiz
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Tips to understand the Seductive-Exotic Initiation Style:
Take time to play the game of desire with each other — show and appreciate the effort she/he has gone to in order to arouse you. Let them know what turns you one about them.
- Encourage your lover to send or show you sexy pics, take a provocative pose or show more skin
- Ask your partner about their turn-ons, get excited with them (even if you don’t eventually want to do the thing your talking about, talking can be the turn-on itself).
- Engage your partner in planning out a sexual event or scene
- Encourage them to wear (or no wear) certain sexy articles of clothing, or undress for you
- Tell them directly that you want to have sex
- Touches or rubs my genitals
- Shows of tell your partner how aroused you are because of them
Other Sexual Initiation Styles:
The Sentiment- Emotional Initiation Style
The Surrender Initiation Style
The Sensation Initiation Style