“Go Signs” that someone is interested can be hard to read sometimes. But there are things to watch out for that are universal and difficult to fake. Watch out for these signs.
Some of us don’t read cues well. Either we weren’t interested in them when our brains were laying down the maps, or something go in the way of how we learned them. There are a few rule books out there (listed below), but here is the short form to get your started.
I always need to have pneumonic devices to help me. I call it:
Pupils +
Go Signs: Someone Likes You
1. Pupils dilate: when we feel comfortable around someone or like them our pupils get big. Light and drugs will also have this affect, so look out for
– And looking someone in the eye is an added benefit. People who look other people in the eyes are liked better than those who don’t. ()
P – Pupils. Pupils, the small dark spots in the middle of the eye are not under our voluntary control. They get bigger when you like someone and smaller when you don’t. Watch how big the pupils of the eye get AFTER they have adjusted to the light. As lower lighting will also make your pupils bigger and smaller in bright light.
L – Leaning in. A social distance from each other is approximately 4 feet. Get too close and you may be infringing on a person’s space. Leaning in, with movements toward (without getting too close) is a sign that someone is interested in knowing you better.
E- Eyeblinks. People who are attracted to each other blink their eyelids more rapidly. An average eyeblink is ___, which increases as you like someone. Watch for a baseline and then
M – Mirroring movements. People who like each other will mirror each other’s movements. Shift your position in your seat, or your arms and see if the person you are talking to does the same.