Welcome to the Erotic Cues for Orgasm Quiz!
Do you know what spurs you over the edge into a delicious orgasm? Are you different from your partner?
Knowing which erotic cues that allow you to reach orgasm can provide you the necessary insight to tap into your arousal when you want it, and allow you to communicate your needs to your partner. Find out more about your partner too.
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What does an orgasm “feel” like to a woman?
New research reflects what women have been saying for years, orgasm from clitoral (external) stimulation feels completely different than an orgasm originating from vaginal intercourse. And different from anal intercourse, for that matter.
Women are amazing in their capacity to experience pleasure! And now the fMRIs can document just how expansive and vast female sexuality is.
Two different nerves go to different parts of the brain. Of course we feel these orgasms differently. Touching the clitoris stimulates the pudendal nerve. Stimulating the upper (deeper) parts of the vagina and cervix registers a completely different nerve. These nerves register in slightly different areas of the brain.
Sex is never that straightforward. Where is gets complicated is when the two types of stimulation happen at the same time. And this is nearly all of the time.
The simple act of a penis going inside a vagina will stimulate:
Internal clitoris – the clitoral arms (crura) that extend around the lower portion of the vagina)
G-Spot (clitoral tissue surrounding the urethra)
External clitoris indirectly (motion of intercourse can pulling the labia over the clitoris).
Cervix
It all feels great, but what is the most likely to lead to an orgasm?
The Clitoris wins, hands down. Only 30% of women will orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone (without clitoral stimulation).
Why is clitoral so damn popular? Women will search desperately to have a clitoral orgasm with their partner. Why?
Because it is so amazingly enjoyable.
But, in the process, the other orgasms get downgraded. What I find in therapy is that most women don’t know what to look for when they want to experience other arousing and orgasmic sensations.
I went through the responses of hundred of women who have reported how each type of orgasm “feels.” Here is what they said:
Clitoral Orgasm:
intense
localized
explosive
Vaginal Orgasm:
whole body
deep
emotional
Knowing the difference feelings can open up a world of sexual pleasure. Expand your sexual repertoire by exploring the different types of orgasm. What do you feel?
Women describe their experiences of the four types of orgasm.
The answer to what an orgasm feels like to a woman, is “it depends” on what kind!
Orgasm is a different experience for every person. While there are endless ways to experience pleasure, there are four distinct ways that women talk about their orgasms. We asked four women to describe their orgasms. Here is what they said!
| Clitoral | Cervical/Vaginal | Anal | G-Spot | |
| JENNI | Focused in genitals, intense. | Diffuse, overall body pleasure. | Taboo, almost violently intense. | Intense, on the border of painful |
| This is probably the most satisfying types of orgasm for me. It feels like a gradual build that usually comes by thinking of something really sexy (fantasy driven), which gets really hot and builds To an explosive peak. Afterwards I spent and don’t want any more stimulation. I’ll get all dopey and sleepy for about 20 min and then feel refreshed. | The first time I had this type of orgasm I was alone in front of a mirror watching myself with a dildo. Sometimes I hear myself have this type orgasm more than I feel it. It is like my body feels it more than I do. It is felt all over the body. I don’t feel the contractions with climax as much as I do with the clitoral orgasm. I can have many orgasms of this time in a row. They seem to build with intensity the more I have. | The only way I can have an anal orgasm is with a very gentle entry and once in and relaxed I want it hard and fast. Very hard, very fast. I can have a massive, body-convulsing orgasm. I need a trustworthy partner and this type of stimulation is so intense that it can’t last too long. | G-Spot orgasms can happen when my partner is using his fingers or a dildo on that precise spot. It can feel amazing, but only if I’m very aroused. Otherwise it feels painful. I do ejaculate a very small amount with this orgasm. I keep almost stopping my partner for this type of orgasm. I have to be in the right mood. | |
| SANDRA | Reliable to orgasm, fleeting. | Vulnerable, fierce. | Exhilarating, Dependable, explosive. | Hard won, takes effort, prideful, productive |
| The clitoral orgasm is personal. The one that I have with myself when I masturbate. It is a delicious build and a fast release and afterwards I feel ready to go with day. | I don’t always want penetration with sex, but when I do accepting inside my body is thrilling and intimate and deep and powerful. A vaginal penetration allows me to have body and eye contact that makes the vaginal orgasm rock me. | Ass play orgasms are the most highly connected with fantasy and are the most intimate and are the epitome of arousal. It is not where you start. You need to be ready to pop. Happen when I am at my highest level of arousal. They are the most satisfying and convulsive. | Even though it takes more energy, is dependent on my lover’s intention and how much I can build arousal. I can feel myself building to the point where I am going to ejaculate. I am deliciously expectant and hold myself back from letting go any sooner than I have to. When I am ready to go I push with all my might. Orgasm just rumbles deep inside, and you can ride it for a long time. | |
| VANESSA | Convulsive. | Deep, throbbing | Taboo, Celebratory | Tight, Exhilarating |
| When I have a clitoral orgasm I feel a sudden release, It as if I can feel my genitals twitching and then clenching along with a tingling sensation that runs all over my body. | It is a deep almost aching feeling that builds and builds until it reaches a peak. Then it becomes waves of pleasure that radiate through the whole body. The waves can last quite a long time at the peak. It is so dramatically different than a clitoral orgasm, so much so I didn’t know if I was actually having an orgasm. But now that I have read so many womens accounts, it is undeniably an orgasm. | Vulnerability inviting someone into a taboo space. Partners in a sexual secret. Everything about this orgasm pushes your limits. It feels naughty which boosts arousal an makes the whole experience surreal. | If I am being honest I don’t think I even feel it in my vagina. It pulses throughout my entire body. And sometimes it gives me the sensation of having to pee. I may actually pee sometimes! It sounds gross, really. But it feels amazing. | |
| GRACE | Targeted, Quick, Straightforward | Holistic, undulating. | Intense, deep, holistic | |
| It takes a very prescribed course for me. Once intense targeted orgasm that is difficult to have multiple orgasms. It is not a whole body orgasm, it is definitely intensely in my pussy. It feels more external. I have this more with masturbation. It requires rhythmic stimulation, faster. With partners but stimulation has to be right. Hot, best way to “get off”. | It an take many different paths, lingering. This type of orgasm is more complicated. You can stay at one stage for quite some time, orgasm, and come back to that place. Mostly with a partner, which makes it more complicated. Depends on the man’s penis, how present he is, if he understands what is going on. Almost like it needs more coordination. Otherwise you end up having a plain old one orgasm. Not as satisfying. | A lot of work. Don’t get much out of it. Never had an orgasm. | It is hard to tell where this is happening. It is all over my body. It feels pre-orgasmic, but it lasts a long time. Being suspended in ecstasy. Not passive in this. My vagina is active, I’m contracting and relaxing, more stimulation. |
