What is the treatment for erectile dysfunction in younger men?
Men are starting to see sex therapists for erection dysfunction at younger and younger ages today.
The term “erectile dysfunction” sounds so extreme. When a women’s arousal waxes and wanes in a natural way, we don’t blink. But if a man’s erection becomes any less than rock hard (like we see in porn), too many young men can panic and try to solve the “issue” with a little blue pill to fix it.
Too often young men will worry that the natural ups and downs of an erection are signs of something more severe. They panic and worry they will never get erect again, or that their partner will take it personally. A partner of a young man who is losing an erection can worry that she is not attractive enough. This can be a very confusing situation leaving both to feel awkward and uncomfortable. Sex becomes something to be avoided or fretted over, instead of something that brings pleasure and connection.
Erectile dysfunction treatment is easy these days. A little blue pill can be purchased easily online. While this may be a good stop-gap in certain situation, or at an older age when the circulatory system is more sluggish, it is not a permanent, and might not be the best treatment for younger men.
Erectile dysfunction can be treated fairly easily in younger men. And some simple techniques have much more effective and longer lasting results than any pill.
What are the common causes of ED?
1. Distraction. Another word is “spectatoring”. This literally means that you are thinking of something else. Men mostly spectator around “performance.” Common worries are: “Am I doing my job as a man? Am I pleasing my lover? Does my lover think I’m manly enough, a good enough lover, etc ?”
2. Relationship Issues. Are you getting along with your lover? Do they want to be having sex with you? Do you feel wanted and attractive?
Sex is an intimate act. It requires trust and if you are not getting along with your partner it can be almost impossible to feel what you need to get aroused.
3. Desire Issues. Are you doing the things that turn you on? Are you having the type of sex that turns you on?
A hard penis requires desire. If you are doing things that just don’t work for you or you are not getting excitement you need to feel arousal, you will not get an erection.
Do you know what your turn-ons are? Can you call upon them when you are feeling your arousal wane?
4. Anxiety. Anxieties over your partner, your life, your self, or even getting an erection can all contribute to your penis not feeling it. The penis tells is controlled by the hind brain and if you are overwhelmed by anxiety, so is your penis. It is responding appropriately to where you head (the top one) is at in that moment. If you are plagued by worries, you cannot get an erection.
What is the treatment of ED in younger men?
- What we do in therapy is to find out:
- What your turns-ons really are. Know your triggers and when to use them.
- How to talk to your partner effectively where you don’t feel embarrassed and she doesn’t feel insulted or confused.
- What is distracting you. Are you being distracted by worry about performance? Are you thinking about other issues in your life? The first step is to identify what it is that is the source of your distraction and then it can be dealt with
- How to deal with the situation in the moment, so you don’t make it worse, and you establish a fun and comfortable patter.